Do you keep asking yourself:
“Why didn’t anyone give me a chance to be heard?” or “Why didn’t anyone ask for our side of the story?”
You may be in a situation where you are the one who has been isolated from the family, and the target of your brother’s or sister’s slander that implicates you in a plot to gain control over your elder’s financial assets of estate, where the direct opposite is true, but no one believes you and your other siblings are unwilling to listen to you as your abusive sibling constantly undermines your attempts to vindicate yourself.
Your efforts to deal with your family yourself will, without certain, be fruitless, and in fact, will even drive them further from you. You won’t know why, but it will be because of how your aggressive sibling is constantly feeding everyone with seeds of doubt about you, discrediting your good name and, indeed, manipulating events that inherently will make anyone listening to what they say about you, to put up a wall between the two of you. That wall will be filled with all sorts of lies that are meant to hurt and sever all ties.
It may be too late to repair the damage that has been done to the family unit, but it may not be too late to still help your elder. It does mean that you have to stand up to and challenge your aggressive sibling in a manner that is totally unexpected. And you will have to endure public scrutiny and closed doors to any attempts you make to gain assistance as it will be fraught with people who have been subjected to false and/or deceptive information if your sibling has had an opportunity to intercede and block you.
It will not be an easy battle. To win it, you have to become detached, resolute in manner, and absolutely precise in your assessment of the situation with as much detail and proof to provide enough doubt in your sibling’s pleas that will be to the contrary.
Author of “The Detrimental Effects of Emotional Abuse: How Emotional Abuse and Emotional Elder Abuse Destroys Us All”, Krumins is the foremost expert on Emotional Abuse and has over 15+ years field and case management experience of domestic violence situations involving Emotional Abuse and Emotional Elder Abuse.