First Responders

Why don’t victims see it coming before it’s too late? 

​The problem is that, unless you remain detached in any type of relationship, anyone can be victimized without even being aware that they are being drawn into an abusive type of relationship.

And, contrary to popular belief, before one is aware of the signs of an abusive relationship, then it’s likely the person is in a spot where they can’t or they won’t be able to fight back. If you see the signs, then that means that the situation is well past the initial stages and the person you are with has been able to gain a position of power or control over you, that is likely to be detrimental to you as well as anyone they feel poses a threat to them while they wish to remain in the relationship with you, the victim.

Helping victims and families or protecting oneself from being caught up in an emotionally abused relationship will depend on things other than blatant, obvious signs of abuse. It’ll be more about:​

1. understanding the general nature and traits of an unhealthy relationship, especially the beginning stages of one, that can lead to an abusive relationship;

2. understanding how perpetrators of Emotional Abuse and Emotional Elder Abuse lure their victims into abusive relationships.

Ideally, the key to stopping Emotional Abuse or Emotional Elder Abuse is about being able to identify the perpetrator before they get a foot near you or a foot inside your home.

In other words, being aware of how they gain control and how they apply “disguised pressure” on their victims to reprogram them and disable them completely before anyone is aware this is happening is vital in detecting both the perpetrator and the crime.

All perpetrators use the same strategy on everyone, whether its to conceal their identity, conceal their actions or proteall of their targeted victims and r strategy and knowing how they use certain control tactics to accomplish this.

What happens to someone to get to a point where they accept being beaten, or seem to be helpless to do anything about it, is not just about being yelled at or bullied,

To commit their crimes, perpetrators rely on:

1) people’s fear for their own safety;

2) people’s respect for elder;

3) due dilligence not being done.

Where mistakes are made:

1) In the first 30 seconds of meeting up with a perpetrator of the crime;

3) being able to get people to cede power to them without being aware of it happening.

Reporting abuse:

• Does not stop abuse nor solve it;

• is made worse for the elder if the situation is misread and subsequently dismissed as family dysfunction.

​Mostly all of these types of situations are very manageable and easy to turn back around. It means understanding what is happening in a split second it does and taking action immediately to avoid all negative backlash.

All offenders of Emotional Abuse use a standard blueprint or strategy to plan their crimes. To manage the situation, one has to understand this strategy before any useful neutralization of the situation can happen.

It is almost impossible for family, friends, neighbors, caregivers, legal profession or even private investigators to find out if an elder is being victimized if they do not know what to look for.

Everyone, in most cases, will be sensing something is wrong, or off, but not what exactly. And in most cases, even if there is a strong indication that the elder is indeed in trouble, it will be very difficult for anyone to get any help. And unfortunately, everyone is looking for obvious evidence of it.

With no evidence, many professionals do not feel comfortable taking any steps forward, as it most likely comes at a risk to their own well-being.

​When dealing with Emotional Elder Abuse, unfortunately, all perpetrators move very quickly and know exactly what they can or cannot do legally.

​It is a fact that perpetrators Emotional Abuse or Emotional Elder Abuse will not allow themselves to be confronted or present in the same room with their targets/victims. Normally, perpetrators of Emotional Abuse send representatives to court, if it even gets that far. Normally, they literally run from any situation where they know they have no control over the proceedings.

In order to circumvent any actions by perpetrators in the attempt to avoid accountability in any sense of the word, a claim can be brought against both the victim and the perpetrator is to counteract any such moves.

​They also know that most people do not question why the elder is making a request. Nor do they consider if the elder is being unduly influenced. They just simply do what the elder asks of them….And this is how fraud takes place.

Know this about the crime of Emotional Elder Abuse and the offenders, if you do chose to leave your aggressor or merely challenge them to get back any type of control over yourself or your situation will mean that: